Manchester-Dominatrix-Manchester-Mistress-Lola-RuinSession Etiquette

Below is some information which
will be useful regarding your upcoming session.

Planning your journey

If you wish to plan your journey, do so to Ashton-Under-Lyne Railway Station (Postcode OL6 6JP). The chambers are only a 2 minute drive or a 5 minute walk from there. So, this will give you an accurate idea of your travel time.

Confirmation Call

It is imperative you call Me on 07494 793 869 to confirm your appointment at the time I have specified to you in emails. If you do not call, or you call late, then I will assume you will not be attending your session. I will then likely accept another session or make other plans. If it will be difficult for you to call Me at the time specified, tell Me and advise a different time when you would be able to call. This can be no later than 1.5 hours prior to your session start time. If you fail to call and confirm I will request a non-refundable deposit for any future sessions.

Cancellations

I understand that sometimes things come up which are outside of your control and you may need to cancel your session with Me. I even understand that sometimes first time submissives may get cold feet. Regardless of the reason why you wish to cancel, the more notice of a cancellation you can give Me the better. Whilst not mandatory, if you are cancelling with less than 24 hours notice a small Amazon gift card sent to My email is a thoughtful way to show you consider My time valuable, and that you understand I have likely turned down other paid sessions in order to schedule yours. After a cancellation I will require a non-refundable deposit for all future sessions.

Punctuality

Please arrive at the chambers at the agreed time, ideally neither early or late. If you think are going to be late, let Me know as soon as possible. I schedule plenty of time between My submissives, however if you are more than 15 minutes late I may have to cut your session short so as not to impact on any of My subsequent sessions that day.

Plan an extra 30 minutes

Schedule to be at the chambers for an extra 30 minutes on top of the time you have booked for. As an example, if you booked a 1 hour session for 14.00, you will be leaving My chambers around 15.30. I do not operate a ‘revolving door’ policy when it comes to My submissives. It is paramount to Me that W/we are both able to enjoy your session fully without any rushing! This extra 30 minutes allows U/us ample time to discuss your fantasies prior to play, and time for you to shower and refresh afterwards. If you need to be leaving the chambers by a certain time, advise Me as soon as possible so I can make sure you are getting away on time.

Discretion is key

Whilst the entrance is in a courtyard set back from the main road and I am fortunate not to have any nosy, it is incredibly importance that My chambers are treated with respect and discretion. Do not loudly call Me ‘Mistress’ on My doorstep, or ask neighbours for directions to ‘The Chambers’. Be sure to arrive in vanilla clothes. If you wish to wear fetish clothes for O/our session, you can change into them once you have arrived. Whilst I do love to receive gifts/flowers, it would be appreciated if you could bring these in discreet packaging. 

Don't come on an empty stomach

The experience of seeing a Professional Dominant can be an intense experience, especially for novices. A few times My subs have fainted during their sessions due to not having eaten anything beforehand. This is scary for all involved, so be sure to eat a light meal sometime in the couple of hours preceding your session.

Privacy

Whilst I am your Mistress in the safe space of My dungeon, I understand that your servitude to Me may be a secret which requires discretion. Rest assured that should I ever see you out in a public place I would never approach or acknowledge you. I ask that you also observe this should you ever spot Me. It can be incredibly unnerving to be approached by a slave when I am not expecting it. However, if you see Me at a fetish party you are welcome to say hello!

Personal Toys

Feel free to bring along any of your own personal toys you wish to play with. If you haven't already, do advise Me of any specific equipment you would like Me to have ready. You are also more than welcome to bring your own fetish clothes, for either you or for Me, if you so wish!

Temperature

I always heat My dungeon room well, as I much prefer sessioning in heat. However, if at any point during your session you are either too hot or too cold, let Me know. I do not want you to be distracted by temperature during O/our play time. 

Subdrop

Subdrop can be roughly described as a state of physical, emotional, and psychological withdrawal following an intense interaction. I will usually send you an email a couple of days after your session to see how you are doing. However you are welcome to get in touch with Me before then to talk through any subdrop if you wish. 

Thank you for taking the time to familiarise yourself with My session etiquette, which will no doubt contribute to O/our session running smoothly. Rest assured that I adore creating a safe space for you to explore your fantasies and sexuality under My expert guidance!

Should you have any questions regarding any of the points I have listed above, do not hesitate to get in touch either over email at mistress@lolaruin.com or phone on 07494 793 869.

Manchester Mistress Lola Ruin • Professional Dominatrix in Manchester