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Behind the scenes…

By MistressLolaRuin | August 26, 2016

Today I thought I would take you ‘behind the scenes’ of both My work and play.

Late last week I travelled down to the infamous English Mansion after being invited to a FemDom Garden party, hosted by the wonderful Mistress Sidonia. Also attended by Mistress Evilyne and Mistress Annalieza, We were served and entertained by 5 very lucky subbies (or perhaps you would class them as unlucky considering how cruel all Us ladies are…?)

Of course, all of Our antics were captured on video (along with other scenes I filmed whilst there), and will be available on The English Mansion Website soon…

After the garden party I stayed over at the Mansion, then early the next morning rushed off to meet up with My sister at a small yoga festival close by. Outside of Domming I have many vanilla interests of which yoga comes pretty near the top of the list, perhaps this will be a surprise to those of you who think I live in latex and thigh boots!

After a night pampering Myself in a hotel, I finally made the long journey back up North to Manchester. Naturally, My slaves there were patiently waiting for My return.

It seems I am very much living by a ‘work hard, play hard’ motto right now. Not only do I adore My work, I also adore how it allows Me the luxury of being able to take time off to pursue other pleasures.

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An Anniversary…

By MistressLolaRuin | May 9, 2016

I just realised this past weekend that I passed a milestone in My career as a Professional Dominatrix… the anniversary of when I first started working at My very first Dungeon. It seems fitting to write a blog to reflect and celebrate 🙂

I adore what I do for a living, and I think the past year in particular I have fallen in love with it all over again. Before I became a Domme, I worked an awful minimum wage call centre job, which was the only job I could get after graduating into a recession. The anti-sex work brigade always cite ‘economic coercion’ as a major reason why people enter the adult industry (personally I’m pretty sure anyone who has a job is economically coerced into it…), and whilst it was true that it was certainly the best career choice available to Me financially, it was also the most fun, exciting, interesting, stimulating, flexible… I could go on and on. Even now years later, when I could conceivably find another profession much more easily than I could as a recent graduate, I wouldn’t want to.

Don’t get Me wrong, there have been a few lows… when long serving, loyal slaves have moved on or been dismissed, when the government brings out legislation without consultation or warning that seriously impacts you, and when the slew of time-wasters that all Us Dommes have to put up with have outnumbered the sessions. When the work just isn’t there it can be pretty disheartening, and when you are in a sense selling yourself, it’s hard not to take those quiet spells personally. Not to mention the social stigma that can be attached to working in the adult industry… How that affects what friends/families/strangers/society think of you, how dating can be a minefield, how it can affect your future career choices and all the associated issues people working in My industry face (and on which I could write a dissertation about…)

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Venus 2000…

By MistressLolaRuin | May 5, 2016

A very quick blog today to let you know that My Venus 2000 machine is finally back in action and available during My real time sessions.

For those of you who are unfamiliar with the Venus 2000, here is a little excerpt from their official website…
Venus for Men is a high-tech, hands-free stroking masturbation machine. It’s durable, portable and quiet design allow the user to adjust the stroke length and stroke speed from 8 to 300 strokes per minute. Venus for Men is the only product on the market that allows you to reach orgasm with or without an erection. The custom receiver provides the user with a personalized fit to allow maximum pleasure with every use.
Of course, when I bring My Venus out to play, it is rarely about your pleasure… Just picture Me unlocking you from your chastity, strapping you down and edging you over and over again. Teasing you, denying you, and of course torturing you after your ruined orgasm has dribbled out of you. And if I am feeling particularly cruel, maybe I will even use My ‘conductive’ receiver to electro-shock your pathetic cock throughout…

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Back to Filming…

By MistressLolaRuin | April 19, 2016

A very quick update today to let you know that after a fairly long and haphazard hiatus, I am finally getting back into filming!
Unfortunately when certain regulations came into effect in December 2014, I became very disheartened. I continued to take custom requests from My most loyal fans but I moved away from filming for filming sake. It just seemed silly to Me to pool My time and resources into an aspect of My business which could become further criminalised at any time and without warning.
Now some time has passed though, and I feel a little better about putting out new content. Especially seeing as My clips are mostly provocative, non-nude POV style clips and not really traditionally pornographic in nature. I am sure this will make many of you as happy as it makes Me!
When I have a little more time I may well write a longer blog post about My views on censorship and pornography, but in the mean time here is some eye candy, teaser snapshots from My latest uploads…

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Reality VS. Fantasy…

By MistressLolaRuin | March 30, 2016

Earlier this week I welcomed a new novice slave into My chambers for his very first session. Afterwards, he sent Me an incredibly insightful email about his thoughts and (with his permission) here is a small excerpt which I thought I would discuss in further detail…
I was also really surprised and impressed by the way you conducted yourself in and out of our session, the contrast in personalities was not something I had expected, and correct me if I’m wrong but it really goes to show how societal conventions have forced us as humans to adapt in a manner that sufficiently satisfy the expectations and demands associated with our given environment. If you don’t mind me asking, when dommes such as yourself and Mistress Noir in this case, were laughing and mocking me during our session, was this a partially forced gesture for the sake of keeping to character, or did you really take genuine pleasure in seeing me act in that slavish manner, again within character?

Of course, I do get genuine pleasure from My sessions. I don’t accept sessions that don’t interest Me, and My services list is notably missing a few incredibly popular activities for the simple reason that I don’t enjoy and/or wish to engage in them with My submissives. It is important to Me that My work never feels like work, and I would rather lose out on sessions than accept anyone and everyone for the sake of My bank balance.
But there are other things at play in what My slave has said here too. There are a few reasons why My personality appears different during play time than outside of it…

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What do you do for a living?

By MistressLolaRuin | March 22, 2016

So I thought today I would write a more personal blog post, answering in a little more detail one of the questions I am most often asked by My subs…
‘How do people react you tell them you’re a Professional Dominatrix?’

Firstly let Me say that I am fortunate enough to live My life incredibly openly… My family all know what I do, and even more fortunately, they are accepting of the fact that I have landed in a line of work which makes Me happy… So as I have no one close to Me I need to protect, and no need to lie in order to protect them, when someone asks Me what My job is I have the luxury of honesty and say that I work as a Dominatrix.
(A few exceptions to this… If I am meeting someone in passing then occasionally I will tell a white lie for ease of conversation. Sometimes I just say I am self-employed (true) sometimes I say I work as a PA (My most recent vanilla job, easy to bullshit about and boring enough to not prompt too many questions) or sometimes I say I’m a video editor… but 99% of the time, I just tell the truth).

Generally, My admission leads to a host of other questions…

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