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My submissive experience…

By MistressLolaRuin | July 11, 2017

As a little backstory to this blog, those of you who follow Me on twitter will have seen I have recently been the subject of harassment. I use recently as a loose term, as this person in question has been hounding Me for well over a year. He has contacted Me through My website, My niteflirt account, My email, and now Twitter. He has also tried to canvass over Dommes and even My submissives. The backstory is that I was briefly in discussion with him regarding a custom clip he wanted, with Me starring as a submissive. I turned him down, as what he wanted was well beyond My comfort limits. It has, however, inspired Me to write this. I thought you loyal readers may find it interesting to hear of My limited experience in your shoes.

I have never been a natural submissive. When I first discovered BDSM with My ex-partner in My early 20’s, he identified solely as submissive, and this suited Me perfectly. It allowed Me to really explore and develop My style as a Domme (which has continued to evolve throughout My career). One night, being the adventurous couple W/we were, we decided to attempt switching. He put My legs in a binder, tied My hands up and behind My head and slipped a blindfold on Me. 30 seconds later, if that, I safeworded. An overwhelming sense of claustrophobia struck Me. We didn’t ever try switching again.

My ex-partner and I parted ways a few years after that, and I began to explore My sexuality as a single person. I decided that I would try to avoid dating anyone who identified solely as submissive. Topping at both work and at home was burning Me out. As you can imagine though, when you are so open about being a Dominatrix, attracting partners who aren’t submissive can be somewhat difficult 🙂

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Double Domme Summer Sessions with Mistress Foxx…

By MistressLolaRuin | June 14, 2017

A very quick announcement today to say that Myself and Mistress Foxx are now offering our infamous Double Domme sessions at a special rate throughout the month of June and July.

We are accepting Double Domme sessions every Monday and Wednesday.
For first time submissives, We are offering a 10% discount. Any subsequent sessions will receive a 20% discount.
As of August 1st, Our tribute will return to usual.

Our styles of Domination are different but complimentary to each other. I love to lull My submissives into a false sense of security with My playful and sensual style. Mistress Foxx relishes in quickly snapping you back to reality with Her exacting and strict Domination. You can imagine how this good cop/bad cop routine plays out in Our sessions… a total mind fuck for you, and immense amusement for Us!

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24 Hour Servitude…

By MistressLolaRuin | April 28, 2017

As promised in My previous blog, a recent slave of Mine who came for a full 24 hour session has written something for Me to share with you all. More than just simply a ‘testimonial’, this reads like an erotic story reflecting on his experiences as My submissive. Of course, I have included some eye candy I snapped during O/our session. I hope you enjoy reading it…

‘She’

Mistress enters the room, she is pure perfection. Dressed to kill, her every curve amplified by the clinging and yet elegant outfit. Her glowing hair cascades over her shoulders. Her heels are loud and commanding as she strides towards your naked, exposed being.

She’s aware of your heated gaze, reprimands and blindfolds you. Mistress glides around you instructing you to raise a hand or spread a leg to be cuffed. The brush of her hair or touch of a hand to your skin is electrifying. The aura of her sexuality encompasses her. You are already hers, ready to melt into the ground at her feet.

Some Dommes exude a certain malevolence that’s intoxicating to a hardened masochist. Mistress does not exude evil. However, as in the 1965 movie “She” Ursula Andress has total control of all around her without raising a finger. If you could see you would observe the aura of mischievous sexuality glowing from her eyes, through her enigmatic smile, to her entire being.

She confirms this with a twist of a nipple that roars down your nerves directly to your genitalia.

Following what can only be described as a warm up, standing, arms raised, legs spread wide and vulnerable, Mistress releases you. After stretching your limbs, you are hooded or gagged and blindfolded. She commands you to lie prone on her bench and with cuffs, mitts, rope, straps, spreaders and chain making sure that you are totally exposed, ready to become the object that she chooses to torment, arouse, hurt and control as she pleases.

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A Special Opportunity…

By MistressLolaRuin | April 5, 2017

I recently had an incredibly interesting session… a 24 hour long BDSM extravaganza with a very lucky slave indeed. I can only imagine how much a few of you perverted readers would have loved to experienced an entire day in My presence. Serving, worshipping, obeying and most importantly being tormented whenever I so felt like it!

I am currently waiting for My sub to get back to Me with a few paragraphs describing his experience, and will be posting a full blog about it then. I even took some pictures to tease you lot with. As you know is a rarity… the snap/flash of a camera lens is generally too disrupting to a session for My liking. Those of you who follow Me on twitter here will have already seen a few videos I posted during. Here is a small teaser picture of one of the many outfits he had the pleasure of shining for Me…

In the mean time, I have an important announcement, which many of you little losers will no doubt have been waiting for with baited breath…

I am currently accepting applications to serve Me as a filming slave!

There are, of course, a few stipulations you willing film subbies need to abide by…

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Holiday…

By MistressLolaRuin | March 14, 2017

So a couple of weeks ago I arrived back from one of the most incredible holidays I have ever taken… a 10 day trip to Cambodia, during which My friends and I managed to cram in about a months worth of activities!

Here are a few select snapshots from one of the many highlights. A sanctuary we visited to see elephants rescued from the logging/tourism industry. Now they get to roam the jungle freely (and never be ridden by tourists again!)

Those of you who know how big an animal lover I am will appreciate how special this was for Me. Of course, despite all the fun I was having, you boys were never far from My perverted thoughts. So many times My pretty little aching feet could have done with some worship from a few of you willing slaves, especially once they were all sweaty after a day exploring the temples in blistering heat… 🙂

Now I am back and finally fully recovered from the jet lag and cold I caught on the 26 hour journey. I am very much looking forward to making up for all that lost time and fun! And thankfully for you lot, I have an amazing announcement to make…

Mistress Foxx is now back at the chambers and available for sessions once again!

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Happy New Year!

By MistressLolaRuin | December 30, 2016

A very short and sweet blog to wish you all a very Happy New Year!

And also, a little message especially for My submissives and fans here…

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London Sessions in December

By MistressLolaRuin | November 7, 2016

I am making another rare trip down to London, and will be available for sessions from the 1st until the 4th of December.

I am flexible on these dates however, and could arrive earlier or leave later if there is enough interest for dates either side.

Whilst in London, I am able to offer the following types of session:

Incall Dungeon Sessions
at a London playspace.

Outcall Sessions
to your hotel/home.

Dinner/Shopping Trips
charged at a lower, social rate.

‘Voyeur’ Sessions
A female vanilla friend of Mine will join U/us.
She would mostly be watching but is also open to some interaction.

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Control (and paying for the illusion of giving it up)…

By MistressLolaRuin | October 31, 2016

I recently began reading a book titled ‘Dominatrix: Gender, Eroticism, and Control in the Dungeon’ by Danielle J. Lindemann. The first chapter explores who really had control within a professional Dungeon setting, the paying submissive for the paid for Dominatrix, based on interviews the author had with Professional Dominants in America. I thought the topic might make for good blog material, and tweeted out to see what others thought.

I received so many responses from both submissives and other Dommes. Thank you to all those who were kind enough to tweet back with their views. Some even sent Me emails with longer accounts of their thoughts. From the range of responses, I got, it seems this is a hot topic that everyone has an opinion on.

Most of the responses I received placed control with the submissive, and it’s easy to see why. They choose the Domme they wish to pay to submit to. They dictate their likes, limits, and often request an outfit. Sometimes they will provide trigger phrases for their Domme to say, and some even go as far as to heavily script the session. If given a safeword, they continue to hold control even during play as they have the ability to stop the session at any time by using it.

Having said all that, I don’t believe it is always quite so simple. Can it really still be the case the sub is the one in control when the Domme must choose to accept their session? Whilst the same might not be true of brand new Dommes or ‘house’ dungeons in America, more independent and well-known Dommes have total control over their vetting process. Those of Us Dominas whom have other incomes streams, such as clips sales, online sessions, or other forms of work can afford to be even choosier. The ability to pay Our bills is not entirely dependant on how many real time sessions We accept.

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My Love of Latex…

By MistressLolaRuin | September 27, 2016

It’s obvious from My galleries and tweets just how much I love latex clothing. My collection is constantly growing, and when I bought a new double wardrobe a couple of months ago, one half of it was immediately assigned to holding all of My rubber. It is already overflowing.

Today, I thought I would give you a closer look at one of My favourite fetishes, explaining in more detail what it is about latex that I personally find so erotic.

Firstly, I adore the way that latex looks. The ultra glossy finish, and super tight fit which seems to accentuate every curve whilst pulling Me in in all the right places. This is even more obvious when I pour Myself in My favourite piece, My corsetted catsuit from House of Harlot. Gifted to Me by a wonderfully generous slave, whom loves latex almost as much as I do…

I also love the way that latex feels. I immediately feel sexier, more dominant, more ‘fetishistic’. Simply the feeling of a tight second skin around Me is so erotic. How sensual it feels, both restrictive and slippy when I have lubed up to get into it. How warm it is been wearing it for hours and have built up a sweat inside. I recently had a bath whilst wearing the catsuit pictured above, and this was a whole new sensation. A dip into a swimming pool whilst head to toe in rubber is near the top of My bucket list as a result…

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Ask Me Anything Q&A…

By MistressLolaRuin | September 13, 2016

Today’s blog is a Q&A, with questions submitted by My twitter followers.

At what age did you realise your calling to dominate the weak male, and how?

I think I have always had a Dominant side, and was always told as a little girl that I was too bossy. Pretty much as soon as I became interested in sex I also became interested in kink (foot fetishism in particular fascinated Me, and was very much a ‘gateway fetish’…). I then began a relationship with a wonderful guy who identified as sub, and this was My first real introduction to more traditional D/s. Although we have since parted ways, I remained Domme 🙂

How long have you been hooping?

I’ve been hooping for about a year. I have a lot to learn still and sadly not quite as much time to practice anymore. I’d love to learn acro/acroyoga, contact juggling too!

How many dommes do you think are into it only for the money, as opposed to at least partly for genuine enthusiasm for BDSM?

I think it would be incredibly hard to really do well at this job, and therefore earn a lot of money, unless you have a genuine interest and understanding of BDSM. Having said that, I have met a fair few Dommes who do not identify as lifestyle players. They are still amazing Dommes. On a slight tangent, I can understand why to our slaves our enjoyment/a genuine interest in BDSM is important, but in general the empowerment rhetoric around sex work really irks Me. Everyone who charges money for what they are doing are doing it for the money. A genuine enjoyment or passion for that is a bonus, in any line of work.

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