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Foot Worship 101…

By MistressLolaRuin | March 5, 2018

Foot worship is probably the most common fetish. Especially so for Me, as it seems the foot fetishists particularly like tiny little size 2 feet.

Almost every slave who crawls through My dungeon door spends some of his time at My feet. Some will only give each one a small peck to each as a ‘Hello’, as My protocol dictates. Others may spend hours smothered underneath them.

Regardless, I believe that every serious slave learn how to properly worship the feet of his Dominant. It’s a skill which will serve you well in serving Me.

It’s no surprise so many people love to worship feet. Even less of a surprise that others love to receive foot worship. The ‘somatosenory cortex’ of the brain maps out your nerves, with a little section devoted to each body part, and their size relative to how sensitive that body part is. Sometimes, these sections overlap. Look at the right hand side of this image… Notice how in the image above, feet and genitals are right next to each other, overlapping? The science of kink!

I’ll let you in on a little secret which may encourage you to improve your ‘podolingus’… when a slave is good at worshipping feet, it generally bodes well for what else he may be good at worshipping.

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Questions & Answers…

By MistressLolaRuin | February 26, 2018

Time for another Twitter ‘Questions & Answers’ blog, peppered with some snaps from My latest photoshoot for those of you who just come here to shamelessly perv…

What amuses you the most in a sub Miss Lola?

The look on their face when I ruin their orgasm… hysterical.

What is that you find the most enjoyable to do when dominating?

For Me, My enjoyment of Domination comes from the power exchange. My sessions tend to revolve around control rather than outright pain. Although I love to dish out a caning, I tend to find psychological domination more thrilling than physical. Even My sessions which are focused on pain tend to have a more psychological motivation to it as opposed to just ‘pain for pains sake’ (as in, training a submissive to take more cane strokes than last time, or using pain as a way for them to earn a reward). Sessions focusing on control in any and all forms, such as orgasm control/denial, chastity, edging, ruined orgasm, cuckolding, worship, tend to be My forte.

Is it a pain to clean whips or canes after a particularly brutal whipping/caning on a sub?

Not really. Sterilising is a fairly straightforward procedure. What can be more difficult is cleaning a room, especially after a brutal caning session or an aggressive sploshing session!

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Back to Sessions…

By MistressLolaRuin | February 6, 2018

After an extended break, I am thankfully feeling so much better. I have already returned to sessions, and over the next couple of weeks will be easing Myself back into webcam sessions and filming.

My down time did Me the world of good. Anyone who has also experienced depression could probably agree with Me how difficult it can be to manage. Most of all, I just felt completely overwhelmed and emotionally exhausted.

My work was not at all the cause, but it had become a major cause of stress. Worrying that I wasn’t replying to emails quick enough. Feeling anxious that I wasn’t filming as much as I should. The level of admin involved in Pro-Domming is huge, and I was falling behind and feeling more burdened by the day.

I did not anticipate the response I got when I announced My break and reasons for doing so. Hundreds of messages of support poured in. I was blown away by how understanding everyone was, and how generous people are when they know you’re struggling. If you ever feel like that, don’t hesitate to tell those around you… peoples willingness to help will surprise you.

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Taking a break…

By MistressLolaRuin | December 12, 2017

Yesterday, I made the announcement on twitter that I am going to be taking a break from My work. Whilst I usually use twitter for shameless self-promotion, I have in the past been very open on My blog, and so this seems a fitting place to expand on My decision.

As it stands, I currently have 2 custom clip orders left to fulfil, and one final session lined up this weekend with one of My long serving and favourite submissives, who is always such a pleasure to play with. After that, I’ll be taking a step back. I will not be accepting any sessions, streaming any webcam shows or filming at all.

I really hesitated over whether to post the reasons for My break publicly. But, I believe mental health is something which touches every single one of us, if not directly then through those we are closest to. It doesn’t discriminate, and the damaging and silencing stigma helps no one, only isolating people who suffer further. I’m also starting to realise that talking about it can also be healing. At the same time, I recognise how privileged I am to be able to be so open.

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Availability and Slave Selection…

By MistressLolaRuin | November 27, 2017

As I mentioned in a previous blog, I have recently been taking the time to pursue something of a passion project outside of the dungeon. Alongside filming, this is now swallowing much of My time. I feel the need to really streamline My sessions going forward. My hope this will make things easier for both Myself and any prospective slaves. As such, I now only have availability for sessions on…

Mondays, Tuesdays and Wednesdays, from 12.00 until 21.30.

I have decided to make Myself available to play until later on the days I am free. I am no longer available on Thursdays or Fridays, however if you are a known slave, I may be able to make an exception. As always, loyal slaves get special treatment 😉

It is also worth mentioning that now as My time is becoming more precious, I am also going to become more selective about who I share it with.

I have always been fairly fussy about who I allow to serve Me. I’ve taken incredibly popular fetishes off My website years ago, because having fun has always been more important than money. My philosophy has always been that My job should never feel like work to Me. To have such control over My sessions is a privilege.

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London Tour 2017

By MistressLolaRuin | November 20, 2017

I am sure many of My fans in London will be delighted to hear I will finally be gracing the capital with My divine presence on…

Friday 15th until Monday 18th December.

As always, spaces for sessions are very limited. This is a mostly social trip, and so your best bet would be to send a fantastic, respectful application and be flexible about when you can see Me.

I am going to be available for the following…

Incalls at a fully equipped dungeon

Outcalls to hotels or homes

Dinner or shopping trips (charged at My ‘social’ rate)

I love social meetings with My submissives, and find dinner dates with an adoring fan easy to slot into My schedule. So, if you like the idea of treating a dominant Goddess such as Myself to afternoon tea, be sure to apply.

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My Birthday and Bali…

By MistressLolaRuin | November 13, 2017

Firstly, thank you to all who sent birthday gifts and wishes to Me last month. I had a wonderful birthday celebrating at a kinky party (where else?!).

Today, I also thought I would give you a little peak into My holiday to Bali last month. I know My most loyal slaves like to see what I get up to outside the four chamber walls. I spent two glorious weeks exploring the island, zipping around on the back of a scooter and living like a queen alongside My sister.

My final stop en route to the airport was a trip to a turtle sanctuary, where I was able to release a baby turtle into the sea. Those of you who know how much of an animal lover I am will appreciate how much I loved this…

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Holiday Updates…

By MistressLolaRuin | September 19, 2017

Unfortunately I have been neglecting My blog recently. I have in the past few months decided again to focus on filming, and have also started a new part time ‘passion project’/role outside of Domming (don’t worry, I am not retiring… yet). Alongside My sessions and My personal life, it just doesn’t leave Me too much room to write to you all. My schedule has been made even more demanding by an upcoming holiday to Bali I am taking this Saturday.

I have been working hard to make sure that I have enough clip updates to keep you perverts entertained in My absence. Hopefully once I am back home and settled, I’ll be able to set aside some real time to blog again.

So for those interested in serving Me, please note I am going to be away from September 23rd. I will arrive back in Manchester on October 7th, and will be taking sessions from 9th October. Sadly, I have no spaces left for sessions now before I go.

Whilst I am away, you can find plenty of hot, FemDom content on the following websites…

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Film Slaves…

By MistressLolaRuin | August 8, 2017

I recently tweeted out asking if any potential fans would like to attend a filming day with Me. I got tons of interest, but as you can imagine, it felt very much like herding kittens!

I’d like to streamline this process, and open it up to others who don’t follow Me on twitter (and therefore missed out on the opportunity!).

So, if you wish to be involved in any future filming dates, you can sign up to My ‘Film Slave Mailing List’ below. You are welcome to sign up regardless of whether W/we have ever sessioned or met previously. I will not require a tribute.

I do however have a few stipulations as to what I am looking for from My film slaves. Please read them carefully.

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My submissive experience…

By MistressLolaRuin | July 11, 2017

As a little backstory to this blog, those of you who follow Me on twitter will have seen I have recently been the subject of harassment. I use recently as a loose term, as this person in question has been hounding Me for well over a year. He has contacted Me through My website, My niteflirt account, My email, and now Twitter. He has also tried to canvass over Dommes and even My submissives. The backstory is that I was briefly in discussion with him regarding a custom clip he wanted, with Me starring as a submissive. I turned him down, as what he wanted was well beyond My comfort limits. It has, however, inspired Me to write this. I thought you loyal readers may find it interesting to hear of My limited experience in your shoes.

I have never been a natural submissive. When I first discovered BDSM with My ex-partner in My early 20’s, he identified solely as submissive, and this suited Me perfectly. It allowed Me to really explore and develop My style as a Domme (which has continued to evolve throughout My career). One night, being the adventurous couple W/we were, we decided to attempt switching. He put My legs in a binder, tied My hands up and behind My head and slipped a blindfold on Me. 30 seconds later, if that, I safeworded. An overwhelming sense of claustrophobia struck Me. We didn’t ever try switching again.

My ex-partner and I parted ways a few years after that, and I began to explore My sexuality as a single person. I decided that I would try to avoid dating anyone who identified solely as submissive. Topping at both work and at home was burning Me out. As you can imagine though, when you are so open about being a Dominatrix, attracting partners who aren’t submissive can be somewhat difficult 🙂

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