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Diary of a Chastity slave…

By MistressLolaRuin | October 27, 2019

Chastity is one of My favourite ways to torment My adoring slaves. In fact, it was one of the first fetishes I really delved into as a young Domme, and I would often lock My boyfriend of the time up overnight. Seeing My partner wake up in agony next time Me as his CB6000 constricted his painful morning hard on was a satisfying power trip. Most of these mornings began with his begging to be unlocked… A hilarious way to start the day.

My love of it has evolved over the years as I have grown into the teasing, sensual Dominant I am today. It plays so well into all of My other favourite fetishes… Masturbation control, orgasm denial, edging, cuckolding, and of course ruined orgasm!

Not only do I like the obvious of having a denied cock in a cage, but I love how that experience seeps into everyday life for My submissives. Their cage serves as a constant reminder of their servitude, and the power I hold over them. Like a painful, frustrating collar they can’t remove. Equal parts physical and psychological Domination…

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Accepting Personal Bitch Applications

By MistressLolaRuin | June 1, 2019

I know I have spent years telling some of you miscreants to look out for this blog post, and now the time has finally come…
I am looking to recruit at least one personal bitch (possibly more depending on the calibre of replies I get) to assist with the day to day running of My increasingly hectic lifestyle.

For those of you who admire Me from afar but do not have the monetary funds to book a session, this is a rare and unique opportunity to build a D/s connection with Me in return for being useful to Me.
YOUR DUTIES AS MY BITCH:
Cleaning.
This one is obvious. This will be in My home and possibly dungeon, and will include hoovering, mopping, washing dishes, laundry, polishing, scrubbing and so on.
Chauffeuring
You must hold a license, own a car and be a good driver.
Ad-Hoc Chores
This could include tasks such as administration, promotion, cooking, foot massage, running errands, gardening or DIY tasks.
(Ideally you would be able to perform all these duties, however applications to just serve Me as a cleaning maid or driver are also welcome.)

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‘RUIN’ Filmed by Duke

By MistressLolaRuin | April 26, 2019

For those of you who haven’t heard of Duke or seen his work, he produces the most BEAUTIFUL, erotic promotional videos for sex workers. Ever since I saw his first film a few years ago, I knew I would love to work with him.

I decided to finally take the plunge, and book him for a 5 hour video shoot last month.

It began with the spark of an idea I had… A kinky homage to Madonna’s 1990 ‘Justify My Love’ music video, which was so sexually explicit it was banned by MTV. Although tame by today’s standards, it’s scenes of sadomasochism, voyeurism, homosexuality caused quite the stir when it was released in 1990 America. Obviously, it’s worth a watch… 😉

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Vanilla Corruption Party 11th May with Mistress Tess

By MistressLolaRuin | April 23, 2019

For the last 4 years, the incredible Mistress Tess has hosted a ‘Vanilla Corruption’ play party… an event where her vanilla girlfriends come along to see the lucky subs attending being played with humiliated and debased for their amusement. The event serves to be a demonstration of BDSM, and this year I am thrilled to have been asked to co-host alongside her, at her fabulous playspace The Alchemy Rooms.

What play happens at the event will depend upon the interests of those who apply, and of course all limits are respected. Previous events have included pet play, sissies, whipping, electro-play, humiliation and strap-on, to give you a flavour of the kind of fun we might have in store for you. The only fetishes that we are unable to indulge in are forced bisexuality, hardsports and orgasms/orgasm control. Beyond that, the possibilities for play are limitless!

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Vulnerability…

By MistressLolaRuin | January 9, 2019

‘A successful Domme is the picture perfect image of success at all times. Steely, traditional, hardcore and relentless…’

When I first slipped on a pair of thigh highs almost 8 years ago, I learned that the men who came to see Me wanted a strong, powerful Woman. They wanted to place you on a pedestal, and use you like a blank screen they could project their fantasies onto. In order to be a successful Domme, you should curate every little glimpse they see to reflect that ideal. Under no circumstances, should you show any weakness or vulnerability.

For a long time, I believed that would be the only possible fantasy men could buy into, and I had to keep up with those smoke and mirrors.

As time went on and I became to question this ‘Dominant Ideal’ more and more. I wondered whether that was something I even bought into Myself. Not only was I the Dominant, but this was My career… could I make My own rules, and still pay My rent?

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Extended Experiences…

By MistressLolaRuin | October 1, 2018

Imagine: A beautiful, dominant Woman escorts you into Her brand new playspace, and locks you within. Just as She is about to leave, looks you up and down, and smiles wickedly.

From this moment, you will be contained under Her complete control, and only She decides when your time is up. Once that door closes, your ability to make decisions for yourself have ended. All decisions are Hers, Hers alone—And they are final.

This experience can be yours.

Extended Sessions
The opening of My own personal playspace means I am now able to be entertained by slaves for longer than ever before. To celebrate, I am now offering ‘Extended Experiences’ for those brave enough to pursue them.

Are you that special type of slave who craves a taste of real life control in a D/s environment? Perhaps you want to steal a glimpse into what 24/7 might look and feel like? Have you always strived to turn over decision-making to a beautiful woman who knows exactly what to do with that opportunity?

This is a unique, one-time experience that you can fantasise about over a lifetime… or, you can experience it for real.

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Personal slave…

By MistressLolaRuin | September 24, 2018

Finally, after many months of planning, blood sweat and tears, My own private playspace is open. As a result, I am now accepting applications to serve Me as My personal slave.

I have poured My heart into creating a space I love, and I am thrilled that all My sessions now take place in My own personal chambers. However, running My own playspace means even more responsibility. As a result, I am now busier than I have ever been before.

As such, I am now open to offers of servitude from slaves based in Manchester. This is a unique opportunity for those looking to explore a D/s relationship outside of ‘pay for play’ sessions.

Stipulations
In order to be considered as My slave, there are a few stipulations which if you do not meet you are unlikely to be considered seriously…

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My Love of Ruined Orgasm

By MistressLolaRuin | August 1, 2018

Far and away, ruined orgasm is both My favourite way to torment, and what I am most famous for. Let this blog serve as an introduction to the ruining virgins amongst you loyal blog readers…

What is a ruined orgasm?
A ruined orgasm is achieved by taking away all stimulation at the ‘crucial moment’ of release. If done right, your orgasm will just trickle out. Whilst usually not painful physically, this is psychologically very tormenting. The usual pleasure you would receive from an orgasm is entirely missing. In fact, ruined orgasms tend to frustrate My submissives even more so. You can imagine how delighted this makes Me!

Why do you love ruining orgasms so much?

There are numerous reasons why I find ruined orgasms so much fun to explore during My sessions. As a brief outline…

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My Own Personal Playspace…

By MistressLolaRuin | July 9, 2018

It has been a while since My last blog. Hopefully, the following news will go some way to explaining why I have been too busy to write you all. Something incredibly special has been going on behind the scenes, and now I can finally announce it to you all. I will soon be opening My very own personal playspace!

I have been toying with the idea of having My own dungeon for quite a long time. The time has finally come to take the plunge. As I type now, flooring is being laid, walls are being painted and dungeon furniture is being built. My dream is coming together.

I am so excited to welcome My slaves both old and new into a space which is completely My own vision. And I have so many ideas on how to make this space even more special for both Myself and My devotees.

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The Perils of Dating as a Dominatrix…

By MistressLolaRuin | May 8, 2018

Dating as a Dominatrix can throw a lot of odd challenges your way. I know, because I’ve been doing it for the past 4 years.

My ex-boyfriend was submissive. He was wonderful in so many ways, but I believe this put an extra strain on our relationship. Our D/s dynamic often burned Me out, and (somewhat understandably), jealousy of My work crept in.

When we broke up, I decided there were two things I needed for Myself in My future relationships. Firstly, to not date anyone who identities solely as submissive. Secondly, to explore non-monogamy.

I hoped that sticking to these rules would stop any burn out and jealousy from creeping back into My relationships. Thankfully, it seems to have worked.

Non-Monogamy

I date non-monogamously less so for an affinity to polyamory and more so because I don’t believe in monogamy. I care more about honesty than fidelity, and I don’t think W/we are naturally monogamous creatures.

Over half a decade of Topping (mostly) married men for cash has only confirmed this. Plus, it’s a safe bet that partner who is down with Me fucking other people for fun is probably going to be chill with Me Domming guys for money.

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