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My Love of Ruined Orgasm

By MistressLolaRuin | August 1, 2018

Far and away, ruined orgasm is both My favourite way to torment, and what I am most famous for. Let this blog serve as an introduction to the ruining virgins amongst you loyal blog readers…

What is a ruined orgasm?
A ruined orgasm is achieved by taking away all stimulation at the ‘crucial moment’ of release. If done right, your orgasm will just trickle out. Whilst usually not painful physically, this is psychologically very tormenting. The usual pleasure you would receive from an orgasm is entirely missing. In fact, ruined orgasms tend to frustrate My submissives even more so. You can imagine how delighted this makes Me!

Why do you love ruining orgasms so much?

There are numerous reasons why I find ruined orgasms so much fun to explore during My sessions. As a brief outline…

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My Own Personal Playspace…

By MistressLolaRuin | July 9, 2018

It has been a while since My last blog. Hopefully, the following news will go some way to explaining why I have been too busy to write you all. Something incredibly special has been going on behind the scenes, and now I can finally announce it to you all. I will soon be opening My very own personal playspace!

I have been toying with the idea of having My own dungeon for quite a long time. The time has finally come to take the plunge. As I type now, flooring is being laid, walls are being painted and dungeon furniture is being built. My dream is coming together.

I am so excited to welcome My slaves both old and new into a space which is completely My own vision. And I have so many ideas on how to make this space even more special for both Myself and My devotees.

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The Perils of Dating as a Dominatrix…

By MistressLolaRuin | May 8, 2018

Dating as a Dominatrix can throw a lot of odd challenges your way. I know, because I’ve been doing it for the past 4 years.

My ex-boyfriend was submissive. He was wonderful in so many ways, but I believe this put an extra strain on our relationship. Our D/s dynamic often burned Me out, and (somewhat understandably), jealousy of My work crept in.

When we broke up, I decided there were two things I needed for Myself in My future relationships. Firstly, to not date anyone who identities solely as submissive. Secondly, to explore non-monogamy.

I hoped that sticking to these rules would stop any burn out and jealousy from creeping back into My relationships. Thankfully, it seems to have worked.

Non-Monogamy

I date non-monogamously less so for an affinity to polyamory and more so because I don’t believe in monogamy. I care more about honesty than fidelity, and I don’t think W/we are naturally monogamous creatures.

Over half a decade of Topping (mostly) married men for cash has only confirmed this. Plus, it’s a safe bet that partner who is down with Me fucking other people for fun is probably going to be chill with Me Domming guys for money.

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Diary of a Chastity slave…

By MistressLolaRuin | March 27, 2018

Chastity is one of My favourite ways to torment My adoring slaves. In fact, it was one of the first fetishes I really delved into as a young Domme, and I would often lock My boyfriend of the time up overnight. Seeing My partner wake up in agony next time Me as his CB6000 constricted his painful morning hard on was a satisfying power trip. Most of these mornings began with his begging to be unlocked… A hilarious way to start the day.

My love of it has evolved over the years as I have grown into the teasing, sensual Dominant I am today. It plays so well into all of My other favourite fetishes… Masturbation control, orgasm denial, edging, cuckolding, and of course ruined orgasm!

Not only do I like the obvious of having a denied cock in a cage, but I love how that experience seeps into everyday life for My submissives. Their cage serves as a constant reminder of their servitude, and the power I hold over them. Like a painful, frustrating collar they can’t remove. Equal parts physical and psychological Domination…

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Foot Worship 101…

By MistressLolaRuin | March 5, 2018

Foot worship is probably the most common fetish. Especially so for Me, as it seems the foot fetishists particularly like tiny little size 2 feet.

Almost every slave who crawls through My dungeon door spends some of his time at My feet. Some will only give each one a small peck to each as a ‘Hello’, as My protocol dictates. Others may spend hours smothered underneath them.

Regardless, I believe that every serious slave learn how to properly worship the feet of his Dominant. It’s a skill which will serve you well in serving Me.

It’s no surprise so many people love to worship feet. Even less of a surprise that others love to receive foot worship. The ‘somatosenory cortex’ of the brain maps out your nerves, with a little section devoted to each body part, and their size relative to how sensitive that body part is. Sometimes, these sections overlap. Look at the right hand side of this image… Notice how in the image above, feet and genitals are right next to each other, overlapping? The science of kink!

I’ll let you in on a little secret which may encourage you to improve your ‘podolingus’… when a slave is good at worshipping feet, it generally bodes well for what else he may be good at worshipping.

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Questions & Answers…

By MistressLolaRuin | February 26, 2018

Time for another Twitter ‘Questions & Answers’ blog, peppered with some snaps from My latest photoshoot for those of you who just come here to shamelessly perv…

What amuses you the most in a sub Miss Lola?

The look on their face when I ruin their orgasm… hysterical.

What is that you find the most enjoyable to do when dominating?

For Me, My enjoyment of Domination comes from the power exchange. My sessions tend to revolve around control rather than outright pain. Although I love to dish out a caning, I tend to find psychological domination more thrilling than physical. Even My sessions which are focused on pain tend to have a more psychological motivation to it as opposed to just ‘pain for pains sake’ (as in, training a submissive to take more cane strokes than last time, or using pain as a way for them to earn a reward). Sessions focusing on control in any and all forms, such as orgasm control/denial, chastity, edging, ruined orgasm, cuckolding, worship, tend to be My forte.

Is it a pain to clean whips or canes after a particularly brutal whipping/caning on a sub?

Not really. Sterilising is a fairly straightforward procedure. What can be more difficult is cleaning a room, especially after a brutal caning session or an aggressive sploshing session!

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Back to Sessions…

By MistressLolaRuin | February 6, 2018

After an extended break, I am thankfully feeling so much better. I have already returned to sessions, and over the next couple of weeks will be easing Myself back into webcam sessions and filming.

My down time did Me the world of good. Anyone who has also experienced depression could probably agree with Me how difficult it can be to manage. Most of all, I just felt completely overwhelmed and emotionally exhausted.

My work was not at all the cause, but it had become a major cause of stress. Worrying that I wasn’t replying to emails quick enough. Feeling anxious that I wasn’t filming as much as I should. The level of admin involved in Pro-Domming is huge, and I was falling behind and feeling more burdened by the day.

I did not anticipate the response I got when I announced My break and reasons for doing so. Hundreds of messages of support poured in. I was blown away by how understanding everyone was, and how generous people are when they know you’re struggling. If you ever feel like that, don’t hesitate to tell those around you… peoples willingness to help will surprise you.

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Taking a break…

By MistressLolaRuin | December 12, 2017

Yesterday, I made the announcement on twitter that I am going to be taking a break from My work. Whilst I usually use twitter for shameless self-promotion, I have in the past been very open on My blog, and so this seems a fitting place to expand on My decision.

As it stands, I currently have 2 custom clip orders left to fulfil, and one final session lined up this weekend with one of My long serving and favourite submissives, who is always such a pleasure to play with. After that, I’ll be taking a step back. I will not be accepting any sessions, streaming any webcam shows or filming at all.

I really hesitated over whether to post the reasons for My break publicly. But, I believe mental health is something which touches every single one of us, if not directly then through those we are closest to. It doesn’t discriminate, and the damaging and silencing stigma helps no one, only isolating people who suffer further. I’m also starting to realise that talking about it can also be healing. At the same time, I recognise how privileged I am to be able to be so open.

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Availability and Slave Selection…

By MistressLolaRuin | November 27, 2017

As I mentioned in a previous blog, I have recently been taking the time to pursue something of a passion project outside of the dungeon. Alongside filming, this is now swallowing much of My time. I feel the need to really streamline My sessions going forward. My hope this will make things easier for both Myself and any prospective slaves. As such, I now only have availability for sessions on…

Mondays, Tuesdays and Wednesdays, from 12.00 until 21.30.

I have decided to make Myself available to play until later on the days I am free. I am no longer available on Thursdays or Fridays, however if you are a known slave, I may be able to make an exception. As always, loyal slaves get special treatment 😉

It is also worth mentioning that now as My time is becoming more precious, I am also going to become more selective about who I share it with.

I have always been fairly fussy about who I allow to serve Me. I’ve taken incredibly popular fetishes off My website years ago, because having fun has always been more important than money. My philosophy has always been that My job should never feel like work to Me. To have such control over My sessions is a privilege.

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London Tour 2017

By MistressLolaRuin | November 20, 2017

I am sure many of My fans in London will be delighted to hear I will finally be gracing the capital with My divine presence on…

Friday 15th until Monday 18th December.

As always, spaces for sessions are very limited. This is a mostly social trip, and so your best bet would be to send a fantastic, respectful application and be flexible about when you can see Me.

I am going to be available for the following…

Incalls at a fully equipped dungeon

Outcalls to hotels or homes

Dinner or shopping trips (charged at My ‘social’ rate)

I love social meetings with My submissives, and find dinner dates with an adoring fan easy to slot into My schedule. So, if you like the idea of treating a dominant Goddess such as Myself to afternoon tea, be sure to apply.

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