Back to Sessions…

After an extended break, I am thankfully feeling so much better. I have already returned to sessions, and over the next couple of weeks will be easing Myself back into webcam sessions and filming.

My down time did Me the world of good. Anyone who has also experienced depression could probably agree with Me how difficult it can be to manage. Most of all, I just felt completely overwhelmed and emotionally exhausted.

My work was not at all the cause, but it had become a major cause of stress. Worrying that I wasn’t replying to emails quick enough. Feeling anxious that I wasn’t filming as much as I should. The level of admin involved in Pro-Domming is huge, and I was falling behind and feeling more burdened by the day.

I did not anticipate the response I got when I announced My break and reasons for doing so. Hundreds of messages of support poured in. I was blown away by how understanding everyone was, and how generous people are when they know you’re struggling. If you ever feel like that, don’t hesitate to tell those around you… you will be surprised at how willingly they will help you.

Thank you to everyone who messaged Me during My break. It was appreciated beyond words.

Now that I am back, I am also making a few changes to My sessions.

Firstly, and probably most exciting to some of you, is the reintroduction of strap on and anal play into My sessions. After a few bad experiences early in My career I decided to take this off My fetishes list. However, I never stopped playing in My personal life, and My enjoyment of it has been rekindled. I know many of you slaves love to be trained and violated by your Dominant in this way, and I am now happy to oblige you…

Secondly, I am going to start offering same day sessions, with some caveats. I will need at least 3 hours notice, and I will need a small deposit sent prior to Me travelling into the chambers to see you (unless of course you are a loyal, regular serving slave). I live fairly close to the dungeon, however I do not want time which I could spend filming/editing/webcamming at home to be wasted travelling back and forth for slaves who don’t show. For those genuine subs amongst you, I doubt a little gift voucher to prove you are worthy of My attention will deter you.

If you want a same day session, then I suggest calling Me to check I am available. It would still be most helpful if you could fill out My slave application form prior to the start of your session, but perhaps do so after you have already confirmed I can accommodate your session.

Lastly, I am now offering Double Domme sessions with My dear friend Mistress Pomf! A little about Her in Her own words…

“I am American professional Dominatrix Mistress Pomf. With divine features, a voice like velvet that simultaneously soothes, titillates, and claws into you, and a mind trained in the art of domination, I will leave you floating in the ecstasy of submission. I delight in giving physical punishments to My pain sluts, but My greatest enjoyment is derived from My expertise in the art of humiliation and mindfucking. My style is unpredictable, ranging from brilliant verbals to the eerie power of silence.  I am often described as a sadist with the dirtiest laugh and most devilish smile.”

You can find out more about Her on Her own website here…

MistressPomf.com

If you are brave enough to commit to a Double Domme session, get in touch with either of Us to see if We will allow you the chance to serve…

My next blog is going to be a Q&A blog, as I have previously done on Twitter. If you have a burning question you would like to ask Me, feel free to respond on there.

 

Until next time…

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Taking a break…

Yesterday, I made the announcement on twitter that I am going to be taking a step back from My work (you can read My annoucement in full here). Whilst I usually use twitter for shameless self-promotion, I have in the past been very open on My blog, and so this seems a fitting place to expand on My decision.

As it stands, I currently have 2 custom clip orders left to fulfil, and one final session lined up this weekend with one of My long serving and favourite submissives, who is always such a pleasure to play with. After that, I’ll be taking a step back. I will not be accepting any sessions, streaming any webcam shows or filming at all.

I really hesitated over whether to post the reasons for My break publicly, but I believe mental health is something which touches every single one of us, if not directly then through those we are closest to. It doesn’t discriminate, and the damaging and silencing stigma helps no one, only isolating people who suffer further. I’m also starting to realise that talking about it can also be healing. At the same time, I recognise how privileged I am to be able to be so open.

The short version of a much longer story is that the last few years have been incredibly difficult for Me. I powered through, very much with a ‘keep calm and carry on’ attitude. Whilst this allowed Me to get through some tough times, it also means I haven’t spent any time really processing the events of My life that have lead Me to where I am now.

I promised Myself that 2017 would be better, and in some ways, it has been one of the best years of My life. I spent every spare penny I had travelling, and ticked three new places off My (very long) travel wishlist. Whilst I had an incredible time, and travelling is a real passion, I also think this was another form of escapism. More recently, I’ve gone through some intense self-reflection and growth.

I realise now that I am struggling with depression. Over the past few weeks, this has worsened beyond what I feel I am able to cope with whilst working. Some days I feel fine, and others it takes all My energy and motivation to get up, get dressed, and go out. Sometimes I don’t have the energy to even do that. Add to that the pressure of a demanding career whereby I must project the image of a ‘perfect Goddess’, and it is just too much. On the days when I can barely muster the motivation to put My make-up on, how can I realistically live up to that fantasy?

I know it is the right choice to take some time away from the pressures of being a self-employed Domme (of which, there are many) to focus on finding some inner peace again. My work has always been a source of such happiness for Me, and the fact that I am finding it so difficult right now is a symptom of My depression, and a sign that I need to take a break. I know that removing all the pressure of My work from My life will allow Me some breathing space. Constantly worrying that I am not working to the standard I know I am capable of, and that I am letting My subs down, is a worry I don’t currently need in My life.

I am hopeful that after a month or two of focusing on Myself, I will be well enough to return in January/February 2018. In My down time, I plan on filling My days with all the things that make Me feel present and alive. I’m going to reflect, read, volunteer, meditate, do yoga and spend time with my pets, family and friends. I’m also seeking professional help and support. I hope I can balance allowing Myself to feel sad about what has happened alongside finding peace moving forward. It’s a process, and whilst I trust that I will eventually get there, some days are harder than others.

When I made My original post on twitter, I also hoped it might just resonate with others also going through a hard time. Judging from the responses I have had, from people both reaching out and opening up to Me, I know I have made the right decision. It has been both overwhelming and comforting reading them. I also think that talking openly about this stuff is especially important around this time of year too. Christmas is an incredibly difficult time for a lot of people. The cheerfulness and family-orientated, loved-up season can make those who already feel isolated feel even more so.

To anyone who see’s themselves in what I have written, please know that you are not alone in how you feel. There are countless other people, Myself included, who know exactly what you are going through. Know that there are options if you need help, and you should never feel ashamed in seeking them out. Please consider seeing your GP. I also highly recommend PinkTherapy, which is full of sex-positive, kink-positive counsellors (I can honestly say that seeking therapy is one of the best decisions I have ever made for Myself). And of course, you can speak to the Samaritans on their 24/7 helpline by calling 116 123.

If you want to get in touch with Me personally about what I have written, you are welcome to do so either over on twitter or by emailing Me at mistresslolaruin@hotmail.com. I will soon be putting an automatic reply on My emails, and will only be checking them and twitter periodically, but I will try to respond if I can/feel able to.

Thank you so much to every single person who has sent such kind, supportive and wonderful messages in response to My original twitter announcement. At a time when I feel so low, it has helped more than I can put into words.

I’m wishing you all a lovely Christmas and New Year, and very much looking forward to feeling better and seeing you all again in 2018.

Until next time…

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Availability and Slave Selection…

As I mentioned in a previous blog, I have recently been taking the time to pursue something of a passion project outside of the dungeon. Alongside filming, this is now swallowing much of My time. I feel the need to really streamline My sessions going forward. My hope this will make things easier for both Myself and any prospective slaves. As such, I am now only available for sessions on…

Mondays, Tuesdays and Wednesdays, from 12.00 until 21.30. 

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I have decided to make Myself available to play until later on the days I am free. I am no longer available on Thursdays or Fridays, however if you are a known slave, I may be able to make an exception. As always, loyal slaves get special treatment 😉

It is also worth mentioning that now as My time is becoming more precious, I am also going to become more selective about who I share it with.

I have always been fairly fussy about who I allow to serve Me. I’ve taken incredibly popular fetishes off My website years ago, because having fun has always been more important than money. My philosophy has always been that My job should never feel like work to Me. I am incredibly privileged to have such control over My sessions.

Financially speaking, if I wanted to retire completely from sessions today, I could… but, I adore sessioning and have no desire to retire just yet. Nothing beats the rush I get when a willing slave is prostrated at My feet. However, I am now at a point where I can really cherry pick who I spend time with. Sessions are simply a bonus for Me these days.

I am of the opinion that such cherry picking is far better for slaves too. If you are granted the privilege of serving Me, you know it’s because I believe W/we are highly compatible. I will have just as much (probably more!) fun than you. I’m not doing it because I have rent that needs paying.

You also know that if you aren’t granted a session with Me, you have the opportunity to find a Mistress better suited to you (I often make recommendations). Sessions with an incompatible Mistress tend to be lack-lustre for both parties. You won’t be paying an inordinate tribute amount for Me to act and pretend I’m enjoying it.

It’s a win-win.

My website has now been updated to reflect this, and I will be writing a future blog post on how to make a successful application to serve Me soon.

Until next time…

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London Tour 2017

I am sure many of My fans in London will be delighted to hear I will finally be gracing the capital with My divine presence on…

Friday 15th until Monday 18th December

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As always, spaces for sessions are very limited. This is a mostly social trip, and so your best bet would be to send a fantastic, respectful application and be flexible about when you can see Me.

I am going to be available for the following…

Incalls at a fully equipped dungeon

Outcalls to hotels or homes

Dinner or shopping trips (charged at My ‘social’ rate)

I love social meetings with My submissives, and find dinner dates with an adoring fan easy to slot into My schedule. So, if you like the idea of treating a dominant Goddess such as Myself to afternoon tea, be sure to apply.

As with My last visit, I also have a close vanilla friend who loves seeing Me at work/play. If you like exhibitionism, then she is available to watch U/us for an extra tribute. She may even join in a little, dependant upon the activity (and your consent, of course).

I will not be bringing My camera, and will not be filming any sessions during My visit.

Be sure to specify what kind of session you would like (incall/outcall/social/voyeur) and confirm London as the location when you apply.

I am very much looking forward to playing with some of you soon!

Until next time…

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My Birthday and Bali…

Firstly, thank you to all who sent birthday gifts and wishes to Me last month. I had a wonderful birthday celebrating at a kinky party (where else?!).

I also thought today I would give you a little peak into My holiday to Bali last month. I know My most loyal slaves like to see what I get up to outside the four chamber walls. I spent two glorious weeks exploring the island, zipping around on the back of a scooter and living like a queen alongside My sister.

A petal flower bath, after one of My (many) massages…

 

A trip to Tanah Lot at sunset

 

A snap of one of the aerial yoga classes I took at My retreat

My final stop en route to the airport was a trip to a turtle sanctuary, where I was able to release a baby turtle into the sea. Those of you who know how much of an animal lover I am will appreciate how much I loved this…

Since getting back I have sadly been somewhat under the weather, but slowly getting better and settling back into filming and sessions. I have lots of lost time and fun to make up for!

I will soon be posting some important announcements with regards to an upcoming London tour and a change in My availability, so keep your eyes peeled.

Until next time…

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