I just realised this past weekend that I passed a milestone in My career as a Professional Dominatrix… the anniversary of when I first started working at My very first Dungeon. It seems fitting to write a blog to reflect and celebrate 🙂
The first photo of Me to ever appear online, a candid shot from before I became a PD. Some things (like My addiction to rubber) never change…
I adore what I do for a living, and I think the past year in particular I have fallen in love with it all over again. Before I became a Domme, I worked an awful minimum wage call centre job, which was the only job I could get after graduating into a recession. The anti-sex work brigade always cite ‘economic coercion’ as a major reason why people enter the adult industry. Personally I’m pretty sure anyone who has a job is economically coerced into it.
Whilst it was true that it was certainly the best career choice available to Me financially, it was also the most fun, exciting, interesting, stimulating, flexible… I could go on and on. Even now years later, when I could conceivably find another profession much more easily than I could as a recent graduate, I wouldn’t want to.
A shot from My first professional photoshoot. I hadn’t started showing My face yet.
Don’t get Me wrong, there have been a few lows… the times when long serving, loyal slaves have moved on or been dismissed. When the government brings out legislation without consultation or warning that seriously impacts you. When the slew of time-wasters that all Us Dommes have to put up with have outnumbered the sessions. If the work just isn’t there it can be pretty disheartening, and when you are in a sense selling yourself, it’s hard not to take those quiet spells personally.
Not to mention the social stigma that can be attached to working in the adult industry… How that affects what friends/families/strangers/society think of you, how dating can be a minefield, how it can affect your future career choices and all the associated issues people working in My industry face (and on which I could write a dissertation about…)
A snapshot from one of My very first clips when I started regularly filming for My C4S Store
But… the highs by far outnumber those lows, and the truth is that I LOVE My job. It has allowed Me to do so many incredible things, and I have ticked off some amazing goals. I’ve travelled and toured internationally. After opening My clip store, I was then invited to film for the amazing English Mansion, whom were so lovely to Me.
I’ve met so many fascinating and inspiring Dommes and subs, and I’ve slowly surrounded Myself with the most incredible group of friends whom accept what I do and are proud of Me for doing it. I’ve supported and cared for family members through tough times, which I absolutely would not have been able to do in any other job. I’ve been bought wonderful gifts by wonderfully generous slaves. It has allowed Me to be incredibly independent, and given Me financial freedom. I have become more confident, happy, self-assured…
And of course, I have had a ridiculous amount of kinky fun!
A snapshot from when I filmed for the fabulous English Mansion last year… go check out all their amazing content here!
I also think that what I do is important, in it’s own way… I am sure a fair few of My subs agree with that sentiment. I have blogged before about how therapeutic I think BDSM can be, and I still very much believe that to be true.
I love the idea that I create a safe space where My subs can relinquish control and explore aspects of their sexuality they otherwise wouldn’t be able to. Doing that gives Me a real sense of fulfilment, which I am not sure another job could offer Me.
One of the most recent photos of Me, a quick snap between sessions a few weeks ago…
So to all My slaves, fans, and loyal blog readers, thank you for your continued support. It means a lot 🙂
Choose a job you love, and never work a day in your life…
Until next time…
Mistress Lola Ruin is a deliciously kinky Professional Dominatrix. With over 8 years experience, She therefore holds all of Her sessions at a fully equipped playspace in Manchester. She is a truly world class Domme. As one of the finest Dominas in the North West, Mistress Lola Ruin is especially selective about who She allows in Her Dungeon. Read all Her FemDom exploits on Her Blog. Drool over Her gallery of Pro-Domme photos. Read testimonials written by Her loyal slaves. Lola Ruin also loves to visit London to offer Domination sessions to submissives in the capital. Sign up to Her mailing list and be told of tour dates. Domme Lola Ruin loves all kinds of BDSM play, especially adores Ruined Orgasms, Latex and Foot worship fetishes. A well-known Clips4Sale Mistress, She consequently loves to film Female Domination content for Her loyal subs. Request your own custom clip from Her here.