Today I thought I would write a blog about some of the small ways you can strive to make Me happy.
Some of you blog readers are loyal sessioning and personal slaves. Some of you admire Me from afar through My webcam/phone sessions and clips. Maybe you just come here to perv over My photos whilst you gather up the courage to come and see Me. No matter what your level of servitude or admiration of Me is, here are a few small things you can do to make Me smile…
Realise that My time is precious
Alongside all My real-time/webcam/phone sessions, I also do all My own administration and book keeping. I manage everything to do with My Clips, including filming, editing and uploading to My various stores. My website was completely built from scratch, and is now maintained, by Me. I don’t outsource any aspect of My business… It’s almost as though I don’t like the idea of giving up control 😉
So, when I am sent a 1000 word ‘introductory’ email, none of which actually specifies how you might like to serve Me, it doesn’t get My attention. In all likelihood will get glossed over and ignored so, for your own benefit too, be succinct in your communication to Me. Make it easy for Me to respond to you.
(This is not to say I don’t like building a relationship with My various slaves. Once you have proven yourself as a worthy submissive, then you will get more of My attention. Until then, keep it respectful, short and sweet.)
Twitter is now the only social media account I have, and if you like what I post then post it onto your own followers. A sweet retweet is a super easy way to make Me smile. Or perhaps you frequent some other social sites or forums. Feel free to recommend Me there too, whether that be for sessions or My video clips. Helping Me to gain more followers and fans is always appreciated.
Write a Testimonial
I recently added a Testimonials Page to My website, and some of My most loyal minions have already contributed. If you would like to submit one, please go ahead and email Me one. It doesn’t need to be War and Peace… just a paragraph will suffice. My only real tip is to try to talk about your own personal experience. I have read so many reviews which are addressed to the ‘slave readers’ and sound practically like adverts, which I could write Myself. I personally find hearing about what your servitude to Me has done for you personally so much more engaging.
I feel like this blog would be missing the obvious if I didn’t draw your attention to My Wishlist Page. I am not particularly materialistic, but if you enjoy buying gifts for your Goddess then please do feel free to spoil Me. It is always nice to come home from sessions to a surprise Amazon package, or to wake up to an Email Giftcard from an admirer who wanted to treat Me (regardless of how substantial or insubstantial the gift is).
Learn My own Kinks, and Improve
Perhaps if you have read some of My ancient and since long gone blog posts, you will already know how much I love My feet worshipped. This makes it all the more sad when a slave simply slobbers all over them like a dog. After recently gaining an interest in massage, I have already begun writing an entire blog post dedicated to foot worship advice. It’s something I want to research a little more thoroughly before publishing though, so watch this space.
Some other examples… of course, ruined orgasms spring to mind! You can practise them yourself at home (just the thought of you doing that makes Me happy). And of course My love of latex… learn how to properly wash and care for it, then do it for Me. Bliss.
Listen intuitively and use your initiative
Look for little things you can improve in My life. Immediately offer to help out, or better yet, help out and let Me know once you have. Compile Me a CD of beautiful, session friendly music if you hear Me say I am sick to death of Enigma. Bring Me a new pair of stockings if you notice a ladder in the pair I am wearing. This kind of servitude impresses Me no end. When My slave begins to notice small ways to improve My life, and instinctively does so.
Of all My submissives, My favourites are the ones who do all of the above. These slaves go above and beyond their ‘play time’ servitude to Me. My career has become more successful as they work hard to make My life easier. They strive to make My life happier in every possible way. They spoil Me completely, and not simply in a financial sense. And I very much enjoy spoiling them in return. My very best submissives get the very best of Me.
Today I thought I would take you ‘behind the scenes’ of both My work and play.
Late last week I travelled down to the infamous English Mansion after being invited to a FemDom Garden party, hosted by the wonderful Mistress Sidonia. Also attended by Mistress Evilyne and Mistress Annalieza, We were served and entertained by 5 very lucky subbies (or perhaps you would class them as unlucky considering how cruel all Us ladies are…?)
Of course, all of Our antics were captured on video (along with other scenes I filmed whilst there), and will be available on The English Mansion Website soon…
After the garden party I stayed over at the Mansion, then early the next morning rushed off to meet up with My sister at a small yoga festival close by. Outside of Domming I have many vanilla interests of which yoga comes pretty near the top of the list, perhaps this will be a surprise to those of you who think I live in latex and thigh boots!
After a night pampering Myself in a hotel, I finally made the long journey back up North to Manchester. Naturally, My slaves there were patiently waiting for My return.
It seems I am very much living by a ‘work hard, play hard’ motto right now. Not only do I adore My work, I also adore how it allows Me the luxury of being able to take time off to pursue other pleasures.
My downtime is very precious to Me. Being a Domme can be very psychologically draining, especially so when you are also lifestyle like Myself. During very busy periods I have previously been close to burning out, and so I make of point of both limiting the amount of sessions I take per day as well as really ‘unplugging’ when I take time off. Not only does quality downtime make Me feel like I can be fully focused and present during My time with slaves, but it also makes Me feel happier and healthier overall.
I feel very lucky to have such a great balance in My life. Thank you to all My slaves, submissives and fans for contributing to that 🙂
I just realised this past weekend that I passed a milestone in My career as a Professional Dominatrix… the anniversary of when I first started working at My very first Dungeon. It seems fitting to write a blog to reflect and celebrate 🙂
I adore what I do for a living, and I think the past year in particular I have fallen in love with it all over again. Before I became a Domme, I worked an awful minimum wage call centre job, which was the only job I could get after graduating into a recession. The anti-sex work brigade always cite ‘economic coercion’ as a major reason why people enter the adult industry. Personally I’m pretty sure anyone who has a job is economically coerced into it.
Whilst it was true that it was certainly the best career choice available to Me financially, it was also the most fun, exciting, interesting, stimulating, flexible… I could go on and on. Even now years later, when I could conceivably find another profession much more easily than I could as a recent graduate, I wouldn’t want to.
Don’t get Me wrong, there have been a few lows… the times when long serving, loyal slaves have moved on or been dismissed. When the government brings out legislation without consultation or warning that seriously impacts you. When the slew of time-wasters that all Us Dommes have to put up with have outnumbered the sessions. If the work just isn’t there it can be pretty disheartening, and when you are in a sense selling yourself, it’s hard not to take those quiet spells personally.
Not to mention the social stigma that can be attached to working in the adult industry… How that affects what friends/families/strangers/society think of you, how dating can be a minefield, how it can affect your future career choices and all the associated issues people working in My industry face (and on which I could write a dissertation about…)
But… the highs by far outnumber those lows, and the truth is that I LOVE My job. It has allowed Me to do so many incredible things, and I have ticked off some amazing goals. I’ve travelled and toured internationally. After opening My clip store, I was then invited to film for the amazing English Mansion, whom were so lovely to Me.
I’ve met so many fascinating and inspiring Dommes and subs, and I’ve slowly surrounded Myself with the most incredible group of friends whom accept what I do and are proud of Me for doing it. I’ve supported and cared for family members through tough times, which I absolutely would not have been able to do in any other job. I’ve been bought wonderful gifts by wonderfully generous slaves. It has allowed Me to be incredibly independent, and given Me financial freedom. I have become more confident, happy, self-assured…
And of course, I have had a ridiculous amount of kinky fun!
I also think that what I do is important, in it’s own way… I am sure a fair few of My subs agree with that sentiment. I have blogged before about how therapeutic I think BDSM can be, and I still very much believe that to be true.
I love the idea that I create a safe space where My subs can relinquish control and explore aspects of their sexuality they otherwise wouldn’t be able to. Doing that gives Me a real sense of fulfilment, which I am not sure another job could offer Me.
So to all My slaves, fans, and loyal blog readers, thank you for your continued support. It means a lot 🙂
Choose a job you love, and never work a day in your life…
A very quick blog today to let you know that My Venus 2000 machine is finally back in action and available during My real time sessions.
For those of you who are unfamiliar with the Venus 2000, here is a little excerpt from their official website…
Venus for Men is a high-tech, hands-free stroking masturbation machine. It’s durable, portable and quiet design allow the user to adjust the stroke length and stroke speed from 8 to 300 strokes per minute. Venus for Men is the only product on the market that allows you to reach orgasm with or without an erection. The custom receiver provides the user with a personalized fit to allow maximum pleasure with every use.
Of course, when I bring My Venus out to play, it is rarely about your pleasure… Just picture Me unlocking you from your chastity, strapping you down and edging you over and over again. Teasing you, denying you, and of course torturing you after your ruined orgasm has dribbled out of you. And if I am feeling particularly cruel, maybe I will even use My ‘conductive’ receiver to electro-shock your pathetic cock throughout…
Controlling your cock with the turn of a dial is just endless fun for Me. A Venus 2000 session is very much about MY pleasure, not yours 😉
A very quick update today to let you know that after a fairly long and haphazard hiatus, I am finally getting back into filming!
Unfortunately when certain regulations came into effect in December 2014, I became very disheartened. I continued to take custom requests from My most loyal fans but I moved away from filming for filming sake. It just seemed silly to Me to pool My time and resources into an aspect of My business which could become further criminalised at any time and without warning.
Now some time has passed though, and I feel a little better about putting out new content. Especially seeing as My clips are mostly provocative, non-nude POV style clips and not really traditionally pornographic in nature. I am sure this will make many of you as happy as it makes Me!
When I have a little more time I may well write a longer blog post about My views on censorship and pornography, but in the mean time here is some eye candy, teaser snapshots from My latest uploads…
You can check out all of these plus My past content here…
My C4S Store
I will now be filming one day per week, so plenty of regular updates with new content will be coming soon.
Of course you are welcome to submit a request for a custom clip here…
Custom Clip Request Form