I recently did another Q&A on Twitter, and so have picked My favourite questions to answer below. Hopefully you will enjoy getting to see a slightly different side to Me through My answers (and for those of you who just come here for a perv, I’ve included plenty of eye candy to appease you lot too)…
Do you think a mistress should ever apologise to their submissive, for any reason?
If a Mistress has done something which warrants an apology to their submissive then I believe without a doubt that they should give it. A violation of a hard limit or consent is what immediately springs to mind for Me as an obvious example. Yes I am Dominant, and yes I am Superior, but My submissives are still human. They are still deserving of My care and respect for their boundaries both in and outside of play.I personally really dislike the idea that a ‘real Domme’ would never show caring for their submissive. Never showing compassion to your slaves is the opposite of My ethos. I would also be wary of a submissive who thought less of a Domme for apologising. If you believe yourself to be so worthless you are undeserving of a (warranted) apology, then of what worth can you possibly be to a Dominant?I would say to My fellow Dommes to never feel reluctant to apologise if you have wronged your submissive. And to submissives, I would say that a Domme who apologies to you is a Domme who sees your submission as the gift that it is.
What are your techniques for cuckolding?
I am a lover of cuckolding, and there are so many aspects to it (as is true of so many fetishes). It follows that the techniques I use depends entirely on the submissive, and which aspects of cuckolding specifically work best within O/our dynamic. Do they love the idea of being humiliated for not being man enough to fuck Me? Perhaps then I will spit in their face and command them to lick My feet whilst My lover pleases Me properly. Perhaps they enjoy the denial and frustration of seeing another man satisfy Me? Maybe I will lock them away in a chastity device throughout so that they can’t even pleasure themselves. Perhaps their fetish has a financial twist? Then I might allow them to buy Me expensive lingerie and have them watch whilst My stud peels it off Me. Personally, I think these are all equally hot scenarios.
A little snapshot for the cucks amongst you…
How insanely sexy do you look in a GP5 gasmask?
Sadly I can neither confirm nor deny seeing as I don’t have one! I do rock a military hat though…
What does being owned mean and what does it mean the slave has to do?
Being owned is not a privilege I hand out lightly to any and every slave who serves Me. It means they have pleased Me enough to earn it. It means that they have demonstrated over months or even years their devotion to Me. That they are obedient, devoted, subservient, eager to please and eager push their boundaries (within reason) in order to make Me happy.Usually, it also means that O/our dynamic has also grown and evolved into more ‘personal’ servitude. Whilst they may still come for their professional play sessions, they also dedicate time to helping make My life easier… whether that be doing administration for Me, or pet sitting, or cleaning, or chauffeuring. They dedicate time and energy to doing chores for Me which are non-sexual but which help make My life easier and more pleasurable. These submissives have earned the privilege to wear My collar, and are My most valuable and cherished slaves.
Have you got a marking or tattoo that you make loyal slaves who are genuine get to show your ownership?
When you collar a slave is it padlocked so can only be removed by you?
I have only ever had a slave tattooed once. We discussed together what marking W/we wanted, and decided on a bow which matched My own tattoos along with My initials, above his cock. It was a very special day trip W/we took, and seemed a fitting symbol of his devotion to Me and My ownership of him.With regards to the collar, in play sessions I use a padlocked traditional ‘leather’ collar. However, usually when I collar a slave as a symbol of ownership I choose a discreet collar, which means they can then wear it all the time. This is still locked, but generally doesn’t have an obvious padlock.
A few of My tattoos, which some of you may not have ever seen…
Do You like keeping your professional life and personal life separate?
To a certain extent, yes, although there is some crossover. I am fortunate that I’m able to be open with those in My personal life about My work. I have a few kinky friends and of course lovers who I play with. A few slaves I trust enough are also allowed to serve Me in My personal life. However, I learned very early on in My career as a Dominatrix how difficult it can be if you burn yourself out by letting your professional life take precedence over your personal.Now I am fairly strict with Myself not to work too much. I make sure that I take ample time out every weekend to relax. I take long baths, do yoga and spend time with My nearest and dearest. My work phone gets turned off on Friday evening and I ignore My emails until Monday rolls around. Keeping a good work/life balance makes Me healthier and happier both at home and in the dungeon 😊
What’s your favourite type of latex outfit to wear?
I currently have a collection which takes up an entire side of My double wardrobe! But My all time favourite piece is My House of Harlot corseted catsuit…
Maybe too personal a topic, but I wonder why you do vanilla dating?
I often ask Myself that same question too! 😊 The truth however is that all of My relationships with people who strongly identify as submissive have failed spectacularly. Domming professionally is incredibly draining. The last thing I want or need is to come home and feel like My time connecting with a partner feels like being at work. Just like a mismatch in sex drives can cause a relationship to fall apart, so can a mismatch in the amount of kink you each want/need. It’s hard for Me to reject a partners advances because I am too tired after a long day at work. And, it must be equally hard for My partner to hear that when they know I have been doing what they want all day long with other people. Having said that, I do prefer to date people who identify as kinky. I enjoy topping My partners occasionally, and I enjoy having experimental sex. I also want My partners to understand an support My career choice. I’m very upfront about what I do for a living, and I’ll admit that vanilla dating can get really difficult and weird when you throw the fact you are also a sex worker into the mix! Having said all that though, don’t feel too terrible for Me. I do have a partner and lovers who I get to spend time with and who respect My boundaries. But, as I’m non-monogamous My dating adventures (/misadventures) will likely continue for the rest of My life.I could probably write an entire blog detailing the difficulties of navigating dating as a Dominatrix who practices polyamory, so maybe I will… next time 😉
As promised in My previous blog, a recent slave of Mine who came to serve Me for a full 24 hours has written something for Me to share with you all. More than just simply a ‘testimonial’, this reads like an erotic story reflecting on his experiences as My submissive. Of course, I have included some eye candy I snapped during O/our session. I hope you enjoy reading it…
Mistress enters the room, she is pure perfection, dressed to kill, her every curve amplified by the clinging and yet elegant outfit. Her glowing hair cascades over her shoulders. Her heels are loud and commanding as she strides towards your naked, exposed being.
She’s aware of your heated gaze, reprimands and blindfolds you. Mistress glides around you instructing you to raise a hand or spread a leg to be cuffed. The brush of her hair or touch of a hand to your skin is electrifying; the aura of her sexuality encompasses her. You are already hers, ready to melt into the ground at her feet. Some Dommes exude a certain malevolence that’s intoxicating to a hardened masochist. Mistress does not exude evil. However, as in the 1965 movie “She” Ursula Andress has total control of all around her without raising a finger. If you could see you would observe the aura of mischievous sexuality glowing from her eyes, through her enigmatic smile, to her entire being.
She confirms this with a twist of a nipple that roars down your nerves directly to your genitalia.
Following what can only be described as a warm up, standing, arms raised, legs spread wide and vulnerable, Mistress releases you and after stretching your limbs, you are hooded or gagged and blindfolded. She commands you to lie prone on her bench and with cuffs, mitts, rope, straps, spreaders and chain making sure that you are totally exposed, ready to become the object that she chooses to torment, arouse, hurt and control as she pleases.
The heavy leather hood blocks even the smallest light, you have some hearing, but nothing is clear and Mistress restricts or allows muffled speech as she chooses. Your very breath can be taken away by her hand laid over the hood. As you contemplate your predicament and breathe deep every other sense comes alive in your being. The slightest touch or breath as Mistress works to make sure you are one hundred percent exposed and helpless arouses you even further. The odd chuckle or word makes it clear that she’s thoroughly enjoying every moment and builds the scene for what’s to follow.
Once satisfied with her preparation, the torment builds as she alternates between a gloved hand caressing a nipple and a nail or sharp object abusing the reddened swelling protrusion. Between the light touch of a hand, brush of her hair and or a soft scarf the tension heightens as clamps are applied to delicate parts of your anatomy. While you breathe deeply and savour the endorphins rushing through the highways within your body she’s attaching you don’t know what to your cock and balls. Straps or cord tighten around them as your penis twitches constantly loving the attention and begging for more.
Gradually you become aware of a pulsing sensation from behind your testicles to the tip of your penis. Now you know what she was up to the last few minutes. Tormenting you between your legs, on your genitalia, nipples and elsewhere with spiky objects intensifies your arousal tenfold. Your Goddess is clearly enjoying herself, every time your tormented body parts are becoming used to the pulsing, throbbing sensations she increases the power, sometimes a little, sometimes in leaps that make your back arch as far as the bonds allow and every muscle in your body holds taught as a guitar string. She’s aware you’re close, so she backs off the electric just a little. However, she increases the delicious torment with other items and small devices that pulse and vibrate. While you smell the leather of the hood you also smell her delicious aroma and feel her presence to the left, to the right, a brush of your foot.
Without warning the e-stim laps high, you can tell she’s enjoying every minute as your body tenses again, your cock feels it must explode as by now you are lying in a pool of perspiration. Between the multiple series of intense arousal your desire to leave your skin, leap from the table, throw your Mistress on her back and make mad passionate love to her enters your mind. Yet: The deep felt feeling that you entirely restricted and are hers to do with as she pleases, while she torments your entire being, is so intoxicating that you would never so much as touch her without permission.
As the torment increases to a crescendo and time is of no consequence your desire for release is overwhelming and yet, within, you wish for this intoxicating torment to last for hours, days, weeks.
I recently had an incredibly interesting session… a 24 hour long BDSM extravaganza with a very lucky slave indeed. I can only imagine how much a few of you perverted readers would have loved to experienced an entire day in My presence. Serving, worshipping, obeying and most importantly being tormented whenever I so felt like it!
I am currently waiting for My sub to get back to Me with a few paragraphs describing his experience, and will be posting a full blog about it then. I even took some pictures to tease you lot with. As you know is a rarity… the snap/flash of a camera lens is generally too disrupting to a session for My liking. Those of you who follow Me on twitter here will have already seen a few videos I posted during. Here is a small teaser picture of one of the many outfits he had the pleasure of shining for Me…
In the mean time, I have an important announcement, which many of you little losers will no doubt have been waiting for with baited breath…
I am currently accepting applications to serve Me as a filming slave!
There are, of course, a few stipulations you willing film subbies need to abide by…
Firstly, the number 1 fetish I would like to have a slave help Me film is ruined orgasm (no medals for guessing that one). Whilst I believe My instructional POV clips exploring this are excellent, to My fans I doubt anything could beat watching a real ruining dribble out of a real cock 😊
It’s imperative that you are not only happy to take part in this activity, but that you would find it physically easy to do so. Sadly those of you with limp dick or who take an hour of furious beating to ejaculate are probably not suitable to be My film slaves at this time. Those of you who already have a hard dick at the thought of this and who cum easily (or even better can cum multiple times with little respite!) would be perfect!
Ruined orgasm is not the only thing which I am interested in filming. Once I know you I may well take suggestions from you and indulge you in some of your fetishes. That is of course provided I believe My fans would be excited to see your fantasies and that I am legally able to film/sell them.
Secondly, My filming generally takes place on a weekday afternoon. If you can be free to come and film with Me then that would be perfect. Evenings are also a possibility, weekends are not unfortunately.
And lastly, it is important you understand that whilst filming is really fun, it is very different to the ambience of a normal session. There will be bright filming lights, discussion/direction from Me, no background music. If this will not affect your performance or enjoyment, then this is the perfect opportunity for you.
If you meet the above requirements, drop Me an email at email@example.com letting Me know of your interest and availability. I am not asking for any tribute in return. You are welcome to apply even if you have never sessioned with or met Me. You are welcome to appear masked to obscure your identity.
This is a special opportunity for those of you who want to submit to Me. Not only will you experience My speciality, you will help Me produce some hot content in the process!
So a couple of weeks ago I arrived back from one of the most incredible holidays I have ever taken… a 10 day trip to Cambodia, during which My friends and I managed to cram in about a months worth of activities!
Here are a few select snapshots from one of the many highlights. A sanctuary we visited to see elephants rescued from the logging/tourism industry. Now they get to roam the jungle freely (and never be ridden by tourists again!)
Those of you who know how big an animal lover I am will appreciate how special this was for Me. Of course, despite all the fun I was having, you boys were never far from My perverted thoughts. So many times My pretty little aching feet could have done with some worship from a few of you willing slaves, especially once they were all sweaty after a day exploring the temples in blistering heat… 🙂
Now I am back and finally fully recovered from the jet lag and cold I caught on the 26 hour journey. I am very much looking forward to making up for all that lost time and fun!
And thankfully for you lot, I have an amazing announcement to make…
Mistress Foxx is now back at the chambers and available for sessions once again!
Of course, We will be offering Our infamous double sessions, which I have missed so much. There is just something special about breaking you boys when I have a very wicked friend to help Me do so…
For those of you who are brave enough and want to arrange a session, get in touch with either Me or Mistress Foxx and W/we can take it from there…
A very short and sweet blog to wish you all a very Happy New Year!
And also, a little message especially for My submissives and fans here…
A sweet and short announcement…💋 pic.twitter.com/qxVvmNF3RF
— Mistress Lola Ruin💋 (@TheMistressLola) December 30, 2016
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